Rubber banding and lag when I am connected to friends world

When I am in a world my friend is hosting I am constantly rubber banding after this recent update (Spring to Life). I haven’t had this issue before but it’s getting to the point where I can’t play. What I mean by that is when I place blocks I don’t hear the placing sound meaning I’m lagging. I have to wait 5 minutes for my game to catch up to my friends but it will repeat again and again. When I walk I’m rubber banding constantly like I said and when I attack mobs I don’t see them turn red at all and then 2 minutes later I’m dead because of the lag. I can’t play at all like this to the point where I don’t want to play Minecraft anymore. I have good internet, so I don’t know how to fix it. Even turning down settings chunks, render clouds, smooth lighting etc. will not work. Help