Dying in nether causes spawn change

For the past week or so, When i die in the nether, i might die immediately repeatedly in my bed, forcing the game to spawn me in my original spawn. 

Today in a new world i was a few hours into i died in the nether causing this, but i also died a few times in the original spawn causing the game to choose a new spawn for me.

Plus i cant find my village now, i cant use commands because locate village brings me to a village ive never seen, and there no other locate command i can use because there inst anything near it to locate. and i cant find any landmarks that will help me find my way back

Edit: found my  home  quickly after realizing that i can use the nether to find the portal back to my home. remember kids keep a notepad of important coordinates