This is a game launching bug

Some friends of mine are playing Minecraft Realms for the java Editions and invited me to play with them. Upon receiving my invite and join I'm booted from the game with the error message that reads "connection reset" and this happens every time I join. On rare occasions I am able to play for maybe 5 minutes before getting booted and going through a vicious cycle of Trying to join, receiving error messages, and surfing forums for solutions, trying everything with no results to fix the issue. I'm running the newest drivers for everything, I've completely shut down my firewalls, I've 100% wiped all network settings, and have even tried uninstalling not just Minecraft but java to get 100% fresh installs for both programs, My last-ditch effort is to post here requesting for help.