I'm having a similar issue. Realms are not showing up for me, as I am the owner. But it shows up for my friends and they are able to join. I can only join a friend who is already in the realm. When I join, a message tells me I need an update. But there are none. Also I'm part of the Xbox insider program, alpha ring. I'm not sure if that has something to do with it.
Stephen Laschon
I'm having a similar issue. Realms are not showing up for me, as I am the owner. But it shows up for my friends and they are able to join. I can only join a friend who is already in the realm. When I join, a message tells me I need an update. But there are none. Also I'm part of the Xbox insider program, alpha ring. I'm not sure if that has something to do with it.