Ok so after 4 days I have got my realm working. So far 4 hours of game play and still fine.
I downloaded a backup of my realm as close to the original disconnection, loaded it as a offline world, sat on it for about an hour, saved and exited the game.
Then I went into the edit of the offline world and selected "play on realm" I chose the option to overwrite my disconnecting realm, waited for it to upload and load and so far all is good!.
Tom m
Ok so after 4 days I have got my realm working. So far 4 hours of game play and still fine.
I downloaded a backup of my realm as close to the original disconnection, loaded it as a offline world, sat on it for about an hour, saved and exited the game.
Then I went into the edit of the offline world and selected "play on realm" I chose the option to overwrite my disconnecting realm, waited for it to upload and load and so far all is good!.
I hope this works for others as well!