I play on Bedrock for the Nintendo Switch and my game also crashes randomly while playing on the server.
The first time I joined the game it crashed just after talking to Jens at the entrance. The second time I joined I was able to talk to Jens without any problems and I played the Assembly Attack minigame, however the game crashed again shortly after while I exploring the Mob Factory.
The game also asked me to download the resource packs both times I joined the server, I am not sure if this is normal behaviour but I thought it might be relevant to the issue.
Edit: According to @@unknown, the resource packs not downloading is unrelated to the crash.
I experienced the item disappearing glitch recently in singleplayer, I was flying down my tunnel in the nether and collided with a block, this caused my armour, elytra, and a few other items to appear on the nether roof.
Items dropping in the wrong place seems to be unrelated to this bug report and should be independent as it is not caused by desync.