Right... makes a lot of sense to allow my windows 10 to connect to anything and to my xbox but not the other way around. Or also let my xbox connect to my private server over my lan. If they are worried about security breaches from private servers allowing windows 10 devices to connect to xbox devices presents the same security hole as allowing xboxs to just go ahead and connect to remote private servers like the other device does.
I can confirm the option exists on windows 10 but not on xbox.
Make sure there are no other villagers within 100 blocks. Give the villagers bread to start the breeding. Once they start no further giving is needed.
A player noted that with 1.16 the farmers will need to be linked to a bed before they start farming. Once they start the farming you can remove the bed and they will continue working.
What are the height coordinates? This will happen if your height that you are in the netherworld at can not allow gate creation in the nether due to blocks in the way etc. The nethergates on the nether side ends up spawning somewhere safe close by which causes a new exit gate in the overworld to spawn further away from your original. It can be a pain. You can try to clear the nether coordinates where the gate should have spawned and see if you can get it to generate there.
I'm guessing this was intended and not a bug to allow players to access the nether without spawning inside a wall for instant death.